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Aw Hell...
Dec. 4th, 2006 02:49 pmAm I a loser or what...
Wait no, I'm not even gonna tell this story, its so stupid >_<
Anyway, I was gonna make a rant
Once I was eating pizza with Cassy, and she was talking about the song "Wiccan Lullaby" and I told her I didn't like that song. And she said it was because I had "motherhood issues" or something like that. Then she said that was also why I was a lesbian.
And it pissed me off because...first of all, one would think, if I hate my mom so much, why would I like other women? I mean, wouldn't I NOT like women?!
And secondly, that excuse is used by people who think that gayness can be cured/prevented. They say that because of issues with the mother/father, the child will go looking for a replacement for the affection they lost in another woman/man. That makes it sound like some sort of mental defect...like back when being gay WAS considered a mental disease. And so all those parents who freak out over "did I raise you wrong!?" when they find out their kid is gay...Are we gonna say, yeah, I wouldn't be screwed up if you'd been around more? A little nicer? That's just bullshit (and trust me, I don't think I've ever used that word before). But seriously, they're trying to act as if it could have been prevented! This isn't some type of tragedy that we need to make excuses for, we don't need to look for a place where we went WRONG. There's nothing WRONG with this! In this sort of situation I prefer a nature more than nurture way of looking at it. Kids from perfectly normal families, with parents who both love them and care for them can be gay too. Its not just people sobbing "my mommy never hugged me so I'm gonna become a lesbian". Wtf?
This is becoming incoherent, so I'm gonna stop. But seriously, it just pissed me off a lot.
Wait no, I'm not even gonna tell this story, its so stupid >_<
Anyway, I was gonna make a rant
Once I was eating pizza with Cassy, and she was talking about the song "Wiccan Lullaby" and I told her I didn't like that song. And she said it was because I had "motherhood issues" or something like that. Then she said that was also why I was a lesbian.
And it pissed me off because...first of all, one would think, if I hate my mom so much, why would I like other women? I mean, wouldn't I NOT like women?!
And secondly, that excuse is used by people who think that gayness can be cured/prevented. They say that because of issues with the mother/father, the child will go looking for a replacement for the affection they lost in another woman/man. That makes it sound like some sort of mental defect...like back when being gay WAS considered a mental disease. And so all those parents who freak out over "did I raise you wrong!?" when they find out their kid is gay...Are we gonna say, yeah, I wouldn't be screwed up if you'd been around more? A little nicer? That's just bullshit (and trust me, I don't think I've ever used that word before). But seriously, they're trying to act as if it could have been prevented! This isn't some type of tragedy that we need to make excuses for, we don't need to look for a place where we went WRONG. There's nothing WRONG with this! In this sort of situation I prefer a nature more than nurture way of looking at it. Kids from perfectly normal families, with parents who both love them and care for them can be gay too. Its not just people sobbing "my mommy never hugged me so I'm gonna become a lesbian". Wtf?
This is becoming incoherent, so I'm gonna stop. But seriously, it just pissed me off a lot.
