Useless

I have a feeling like I'm useless.
When it comes to my roleplay, I can make my character the perfect prince charming. They know how to comfort the one they Love when they're sad or scared.
But I can't. I can't seem to use those talents myself. When something like that happens its like I say something stupidly obvious..."it was scary" "it sounds like it would be"
what am I, a shrink? no
Yet I can't seem to reach the same effect as I can in writing. Were all writers so bad in their personal lives? I can craft the perfect speech, but when it comes time to say it, I get nervous. I'm always afraid that someone will take what I say the wrong way.
and sometimes I just can't think of anything to say.
Sometimes there isn't anything to say.

But I wish I could be better to her.
I wish I could be like I make my characters be.
I wish I could actually live like what I write about.