which...

People are always saying, that when you Love someone, you always put their happiness before your own. Abandon all selfishness and live purely for them.
But I'm wondering...
Is it that you truly lose all selfishness, that you feel no need for your own happiness, that you will TRULY be happy, just as long as they are...
or if...
you still have those selfish feelings. You still think, this is what I want, but you put it aside. You ignore the selfish feelings and tell them to do what makes them happy.
because I've always felt like the second option. And I've always felt bad because I'm not the first.
you see?
is it really supposed to be that we should feel that way? That we should honestly feel as if their happiness is the most important thing, and be happy from that? To NOT think about ourselves?
or is it True Love, to put aside your feelings, feelings that you still have, to put them aside for the sake of your Beloved?

Is it heavenly not to be tempted at all, or to resist the temptation?

Which one would take more work?